Should I tell my stepmother that my father plans to divorce her?
My father has been seeing another woman and fully intends to divorce my stepmother but hasn’t told her yet. My stepmother and I have a bad past, and we haven’t spoken in several years. But I still feel that what my father is doing and planning is wrong, and I feel like I should tell her. At the same time, I also feel that maybe it isn’t any of my business and to just stay out of it and keep my mouth shut. What should I do?
Honey, this is between the two of them entirely. I don’t doubt your Step Mother by now is not in the dark about things that have been going on & it shouldn’t be such a surprise as you think it may be! Also, if you haven’t had the "best past" over the yrs., this would NOT be the time or the thing that should be discussed, far from it! Let them work it out themselves & just keep things to yourself, especially in this case. Not knowing all that’s been going on between them, it just may be something they’ve already talked over & agreed on. Just stay out of the picture & try to stay neutral regarding "their" situation…best to you, I know you mean well…:)
dont tell her
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Your voice of reason is intelligent. Keep your mouth shut. It’s their business.
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No, this is between your dad and your stepmother. You owe her nothing.
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Hmmm… Difficult, Personally I’d stay out of it. Your dad will be obviously angry at you for betraying him. But then again if you feel like telling her is the right thing then do it. Just beware of the consiquences, argeuing ect. Just have a long think about it. Good luck
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Stay out of it. What your dad is doing is wrong, but you should not intervene. First, remember that in antiquity the messenger was often killed. If you do so, your already strained relationship with your stepmother is going to end up worse, most likely, and you will end up alienating your father. You have absolutely nothing to win and a lot to lose.
You may tell yourself "but even if things get ugly for me, maybe I have the moral duty to do so!" You don’t. First, your step mom probably already knows, or she at least has a hunch. Second, even if she is in blissful ignorance on that regard, who are you to wreck that false blissfulness before it’s time.
I repeat: Not your business, too much to lose, nothing to gain!
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None of your business
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OMG say nothing.. Divorce is hard and it needs to be dealt with the only two people involved.
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This is his issue to talk about to his wife, your step mother..don’t get involved..confront him
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no reason for you to get involved, especially if there isn’t any love between you and your step mother. anything told to her could possibly be used against your dad in the divorce. your dad is your blood but the step mom isn’t. Its never a good idea to meddle in things like this.
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geez this will be his 3rd marriage if he marrys this thing hes with, your mom, now ur step mom and this bimbo hes with , hes rotten for doing tis to her one day it will come back to bite him in the butt. tell her or make sure she knows some way
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Honey, this is between the two of them entirely. I don’t doubt your Step Mother by now is not in the dark about things that have been going on & it shouldn’t be such a surprise as you think it may be! Also, if you haven’t had the "best past" over the yrs., this would NOT be the time or the thing that should be discussed, far from it! Let them work it out themselves & just keep things to yourself, especially in this case. Not knowing all that’s been going on between them, it just may be something they’ve already talked over & agreed on. Just stay out of the picture & try to stay neutral regarding "their" situation…best to you, I know you mean well…:)
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i personally think you should first tell him that what he is doing to her is unfair and disrespectful. If he plans on a divorce he should handle that before seeing someone else because that is still cheating. i think you should tell him that and if he doesn’t plan on ending the marriage soon and you should give him an ultimatum by say u tell her or i will. And if he chooses not to you should tell her or give her some sort of hint so she could figure it out herself, i mean just put yourself in her position. wouldn’t you want to be notified? this is all my opinion, so just do what feels right.
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my personal opinion
It’s NONE of your business. Keep your nose out of it. You could end up being blamed for breaking them up!
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